Some people in the swansea valley suffer prejudice and because of this they only see the bad in people even if there is no bad to see.

Sometimes I think it was fate that I was to buy a house where I did, because I have such high morals and principles. I am very interested in different religions and I try to live my life in an almost religious way. An example is that if a shopkeeper gave me too much change I will always return it, no question. In Buddhism there is a strong belief in karma, by living a good life you will have good fortune. This I strongly believe, by being good to others, treating others as you yourself want to be treated etc. This philosophy gives the best chance to bring you a happy life.

With prejudice you prejudge someone. I became the victim of prejudice and was wrongly prejudged. I do a lot of walking and I greet the people I meet with a nod, a smile and I say hello. I usually get the same in return and I see these people as good people. Occasionally I will greet someone but they ignore me, I don’t understand why when out walking you can just ignore people but I don’t judge them as bad people, it’s just the way they are.

I have and we all have at some time in our lives prejudged people. I have met some very rough looking people and thought to myself that I don’t like the look of this person, I then judge them as probably a bad person. Sometimes I’m correct but I have been wrong. Sometimes after talking to the person I change my mind. At the beginning I was prejudice but after talking and looking into the eyes I see that I was wrong and see that they are a good person.

When I moved to the Swansea Valley I was prejudged because of where I previously lived, because I was a young single man and because I didn’t come with lots of money to plough into the place (I was renovating it myself so it was going to be at a slower pace than someone with lots of money).

Instead of giving me the benefit of the doubt and taking me as they found me, this was never to be. I came from Swansea and the prejudice was too powerful, no matter how friendly or how nice I was to everyone they were never going to like me. The amount of times I was glared at as if they hated me was unreal. I could see how they were to me but always thought that when they eventually saw how good I was at renovating and how well the place was going that they would eventually change their opinions of me.

What I could do nothing about though was the fact that however friendly and nice I was to everyone, they would imagine bad things about me. There was no way I could win, the prejudice was too strong. For example, if I were to say ‘hello, nice day today’, instead of seeing me as a happy and friendly neighbour, they would imagine I was being funny, maybe being sarcastic or using reverse psychology or whatever bad mindedness they believed about me. This is an extreme example but that is pretty much as it was.

When they realised that the dirty looks and the being sarcastic to me wasn’t working and never was going to work that’s when they started to become real low life and criminal, that’s when they decided to harass and intimidate me below the belt.

One day I was watching Bruce Parry in the Amazon. For anyone who doesn’t know Bruce, he has also been in a TV series called Tribe, where he goes to live with many different small tribes from around the world and is taken in by one of the families. He then lives with them as they live, hunting, gathering, doing all the rituals and becoming a part of the tribe. When Bruce first joins a new tribe they are suspicious of him and they don’t like him, they find it hard to trust him and it is usually an awkward feeling between them. After a few days when they start to get to know Bruce and because he is an expert at getting on with people (he’s an anthropologist), they start to like and to trust him. By the end of the week or two weeks they have such respect and warmth for Bruce that they are devastated when he has to go and when they all say their goodbyes.

One of the worst tribes I saw him join was a tribe of cannibals, these people had evil looks in their faces and you could see that they were killers. They kept Bruce awake in the nights and he had a tough time living with them, but he did get on with them and they did like him.

The point I am making though is that there was one particular time when he joined a tribe in the Amazon and you could see the tension from the moment they met. They didn’t like him and instead of winning them round they just couldn’t bring themselves to put their guards down and to give him a chance. When he talked to them he found out that because the white men have been logging so much that they are ruining their homes and they hate them, they called them gringos and because Bruce was a white man this was the problem.

After a few days they had to ask Bruce to leave, this was because their prejudice was so much that they could not bear him being there any longer, they just couldn’t change their opinion of him. When I watched this episode I kept thinking to myself that this is almost exactly how my neighbours were with me. I knew from this moment that it was definitely prejudice that my neighbours suffered from. They had prejudged me and could not change their opinion.

The other time when I knew for certain was when I was showing people around my property who were interested in buying and if they were from Swansea I didn’t want them to buy it. The police can say that I may have imagined it but from these two realizations, I know 100% that I was treated with prejudice from my neighbours. I wish that the police would sit up and take steps not for this to happen again in the future. To support people this way instead of policing the situation is just as bad or maybe even worse a crime that the intimidation itself.

If the neighbours can lie to the police about me and manipulate them, if my neighbours can get away with this then the problem will become worse. Until the day arrives when the people living in the Swansea valley realize that they can not get away with this type of behaviour, it will only get worse and escalate.

If I don’t get on with someone then I don’t bother with them, I will say hello and smile because that the way I am but I won’t chat. If they didn’t like me because of whatever reason, they could have simply left me alone because I was no trouble to anyone. But instead of leaving me alone they decided to gang up against me and plotted to try and make my life there unbearable. Cowards is the word that best describes them, with their reverse psychology (pretending to be nice to my face but rubbishing my name behind my back).

When I talked to them and tried to be friendly they just couldn’t trust me, exactly like the Amazon tribe with Bruce… Pure prejudice.

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The twist in the tail – why did they prejudge me and why do they have such prejudice in the Swansea Valley

As a young man buying my first home and moving away from my family, I hoped that I had chosen a good place to live. The house and garden needed renovation but I had the energy to get on with everything (slowly ) and to make an excellent place to live. The house is a very old (1852) stone built cottage type property, there is a lot of land with it and living in the country has always been a dream of mine.

I imagined that the people in the country were going to be very friendly and much more easy going than city people. I really thought that the area I was moving to was a nice place and somewhere I could settle down. I believed that living in the country would be less stress and that one day when I had finished the house that I might meet a girl and even start a family there.

The reality was nothing like I had imagined. My direct next door neighbour was completely prejudice towards me and did not like me. He systematically said things about me to all the other neighbours (even before I got there I imagine) and made up lies that I was a rough person from a rough area and bla bla bla. I heard him talking badly about me to one neighbour and not long after I started to get grief from that person. He turned everyone against me this way and he enjoyed doing it.

Instead of my neighbours being friendly to me they would stare at me, glare at me and look down at me as if I was not wanted there. They were the opposite of nice to me, they were horrible. Because of the extreme prejudice I received, I now look at the place as a horrible place. The people need to be educated and the harassment, bullying and intimidation needs to be looked into. The pontardawe police and the neath port talbot council support the people who are prejudice instead of helping the victim.

The pathetic and cowardly bullying that became worse and worse for me made me decide to sell up, but this is where there is the twist in the tail – I have now found out that my Great Grandfather lived in Ystradgynlais, my Grandfather was born there and the lived on a farm there until he was 10 years old. I was more of a local than the people who were giving me the worst grief. The locals never really gave me a chance and never talked to me normally to get to know me. If I had been given a chance they would have realised that I was just a normal and a good person. If they had any problems with me I would have listened and done something to put it right. They always said to my face that they had no problem with me but they were lying.

The truth is that they didn’t want a single man living there, they wanted a family or a retired couple or similar. Because they had prejudged me wrongly from the start and because they always had bad thoughts about me, they could never see me for the real person that I am. They wanted me out and I would never stay where I am not wanted. Once I knew for sure that they were intimidating me and that they were prejudice, I decided to go.

But I am a writer, I love to write and every time I was given grief I would write everything down. By writing down my thoughts I would feel better. I now have so much material that I am writing a book. They say that from a bad situation comes good and this experience that I have gone through is now a part of my life and I will no doubt write a lot about it as the years go by.

I hope to help others and to help the people living in the Swansea valley to change for the better. I have no revenge and no hatred for what happened to me, that’s not the way I am or ever will be. Help they need and I really wish that they can change their ways for the better.

prejudice is a bad problem in the area swansea valley

Before I had even met my neighbours, they had decided that they didn’t want me there because I was from Swansea, they had imagined I was from a rough part and instead of smiles I was greated with stone faced glares. My next door neighbour mentioned to me a few times that I came from a rough part of Swansea even though I don’t. He manipulated all of them to believe what he wanted them to believe.

When I arrived I was as friendly as I could be to everyone, but from quite a few of my neighbours all I recieved was stares, glares, looks as if I was not wanted and as if I were scum. I knew I was a good guy and I thought that once they got to know me that they would change and get to like me. In my life anyone who gets to know me usually likes me and I don’t have people treat me like they did in the Swansea valley.

I now know that they are suspicious of outsiders, but the most grief that I had during my time there actually came from outsiders themselves. The pontardawe police and the neath port talbot council became a bigger part of my problem than the neighbours. I was intimidated, harassed and often felt like I was living in the twighlight zone. I blame my neighbours for manipulating them, but to support prejudice without listening to the person, to take sides and listen to the lies instead of the truth is wrong.

Education is what many of the people there need, prejudice is as bad as racism but because I wasn’t from a different race the police did not take me seriously.

Prejudice needs to be stamped out in the Swansea valleys.

Just cowards who think they’re big when they gang up against someone, they suffer from predjudice and enjoy harassing and intimidating.

To gang up against someone and harass them shows how cowardly these people are. What can we do to him to make his life here unbearable they thought to themselves. how can we freak his head out and do things to make it feel like he needs to move. This is what my pathetic cowardly neighbours must have been saying behind my back. Apart from a few sarcastic remarks and being told by one neighbour that if he didn’t get on with his next door neighbour (which was me), that he wouldn’t think twice to pay someone to sort them out (he was quite drunk when he said it). None of then said anything to my face, they were/are all cowards and are not men at all. I thought I got on with some of them, only when I fully realised what my neighbours from the Swansea Valley were doing to me did I understand that they only pretended to be friendly, my next door neighbour was just another coward, a small pathetic person who got his sick enjoyment from lying about people and making up gossip.

2 against 1 is unfair, how many did they need? 4, 6 10? how many did they need before they felt big enough and brave enough. When you are a coward you are not a man, I don’t regard any of them as men, they are low life in my eyes.

The more grief they gave me the more I was glad to go, I realised that although my property was a good place, I did not like the area. I understood that it was a rough area, a horrible place. The houses and gardens may look nice but the people are not. They are the opposite of nice. They are the opposite of Christian and they commit many sins. If the Christian religion is correct then they have committed a few of the worst sins. Love thy neighbour, they don’t live to this it’s more like hate thy neighbour is their way of life. Slander and make up lies against their neighbour. Tell the neighbour that everyone likes him when the truth is that they hate him and they are trying their hardest to get everyone else to hate him.

There is absolutely nothing that has been done to me that won’t come back through karma onto them, what goes around comes around and for every person who ganged up to harass me, they will get bad karma and bad luck for what they have done. I will not lift a finger in revenge, for every thing they have done to me I will get good luck from in the future. I believe that through their bad mindedness and evil ways, they are actually cursing themselves. I don’t feel sorry for myself, my car has been stolen but already I have experienced some very good luck and good fortune. Karma will 100% restore the balance and although they have tried to get to me and to freak me out, I am immune. Whatever they do will rebound back to them worse. The more bad they do the more good luck I will receive and the more bad luck they will have.

Swansea valley, pontardawe etc, lots of the people there suffer from prejudice and harassing neighbours who they see as an easy target, this is a way of life for many of them.

They need help.

Swansea Valley neighbour intimidation, harassment and prejudice

After 5 years of intimidation and prejudice against myself since buying a house in the Swansea valley (ending with my car being stolen), I decided to sell up. The day I arrived there it started off with dirty looks and glares from certain neighbours and it ended with lies and gossip about myself. I had pathetic complaints made against me to the council and cruelty to my animals. The biggest surprise for me was that the council and the police sided with my neighbours and that was more a problem than the neighbours.

Cowards is the only word that I think of these people. How many does it take to gang up against one person? How many did they need not 1, not 2 more like 10 or more, that’s how big they are. Nothing big about what they did to me. Complaining behind my back but then to my face telling me that I was OK and that I was liked.

When I found out that they had done the same thing to another neighbour opposite me I realised that it is just something they enjoy doing, he was even threatened with violence, as I was and I was given dirty looks many many times.

Another thing I found out is that in the valleys it is quite common that if someone rough or a criminal moves into the area they are ganged up on and forced to move.

I believe that although in some cases the way the people who live in the valleys, how they get together and get undesirable people to move has been a good thing. The problem seems to be that they have got so much enjoyment from bullying people out that they pick on anyone that they can do this to just for the fun of it. They make up that they are undesirable and not suited to the area and the police and the council believe them. The Pontardawe police and the Neath Port Talbot council actually help the locals and I was advised that I should move by the police.

By helping the locals this is why the problem has become and is getting worse. When I was told by a friend of mine that she knew someone who had gone through nearly exactly the same thing as me in Pontardawe for 6 years until she had to move, I decided to make this forum. I decided to see if I can find other people on the internet who have also suffered prejudice, harassment and intimidation when they tried to live in the Swansea valley.

I have a complaint case going on at the moment against the police but I don’t think this will change anything. I will probably write my story off to the media and to members of parliament soon. I hope I can find other people who have had similar experiences to me. The police turn a blind eye and the council help the locals, they all suffer from bad prejudice in my opinion and they all need to be educated.

I’ve always been against bullies and will try to help anyone else who is in the same situation as I found myself. Bullying and ganging up against another person out of prejudice and just for fun is a bad problem. It needs to be looked into, the Pontardawe police and the Neath Port Talbot council need to make changes in the way they deal with this type of problem, instead of adding to it.

Please add a comment describing any problems you have had or send me a message.

The definition of a nice area and nice people.

A nice area is where the people are nice and they are friendly. Where I moved in the Swansea valley it was not a nice area at all. When people are horrible to their neighbours and talk badly about them behind their backs this is not a nice place to live.

So what makes a nice person? A nice person is nice to people and friendly, but this is where there is confusion amongst many people. To be nice to people that you like, but if you don’t like someone you can treat them badly, what type of person are you?

A truly nice person will treat the people they like nicely and the people they don’t like nicely. This is consistency. If you find yourself talking badly about people that you don’t like and not being friendly to them then you have a duel personality. In an area where people are like this it isn’t a very nice area.

Where I lived the people had problems. Prejudice is a problem that is often passed on through the parents. If disliking Swansea people is a problem in the area and the children are brought up to think this way then they have been brought up wrongly.

When someone goes even further than not being friendly to the people they don’t like. When someone goes further than talking badly about them and decides to do things to that person behind their backs to make their life miserable, then you have a big problem. This takes prejudice to a different level and although this person may be able to be nice to the people they like, they are most definitely a horrible person to the people they don’t like.

Where I was the people there were mostly horrible people and for anyone to think it is a nice place is way off the mark. I’ve experienced prejudice and I’ve experienced the pontardawe police letting my neighbours get away with it. It was as if the police were also prejudice. Even though they never met me or took my complaints seriously enough to take a statement or anything.

If I were from a different race and had different colour skin I would probably have been listened to.

Prejudice is a problem and no one should turn a blind eye and ignore it…

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Why does prejudice cloud peoples opinions of others in the Swansea valley?

Today I found out something about myself that made me both sad and made me wish I had known this before. For all the prejudice I felt when I moved to the Swansea valley and the harassment and intimidation I received from certain neighbours. I have now found out that my great Grandfather lived in Ystradgynlais, he lived there for many years near to the town, he then married a local girl and my Grandfather was born there. They then bought a farm in the area and my Grandfather was brought up on the farm.

When I moved from Swansea to the Swansea valley, it was as if a local boy had come home. I have never felt that I belong in Swansea and have always felt a longing to move to the country. The Swansea valley seemed as if it was a good place for me to go and it is strange that I was drawn to this place near to where my family used to live. I also have family history near Lampeter, Cardigan and some in Pembroke. But this strong Family history that I have in Ystradgynlais may have been what drew me to move back near to this area.

It is a pity that I didn’t know this information, I was actually more local than most of the neighbours who were prejudice against me. Some were English, some from over 20 miles away. The real locals would give me dirty looks and glare at me as if I was not wanted around there. They probably spoke badly of me behind my back but they were not the ones who were really pushing me and planning things to do to me.

If the real locals had got to know me better they would have seen that I was a good person, but they prejudged me and they prejudged me wrongly. I have high morals, strong principles, I respect people and respect my neighbours. I believe that if you treat people nicely they will treat you the same way. I avoid arguing and fighting. I didn’t move there to fight, my intentions were to get on with everyone. I don’t drink, don’t smoke or do drugs, I don’t swear often and I enjoy peace and quiet.

I bought my house to renovate and to live there, not to renovate and sell. I hoped that one day I may start a family there. But my neighbours never gave me a chance. From day one I was made to feel that I wasn’t wanted and the intimidation and harassment got worse and worse the longer I was there.

They are cowards and they did make up lies about me and they imagined all sorts of weird things about me. They couldn’t see the woods from the trees. A tidy person had moved to the area and they were blind of the fact. Because of where I had previously lived they saw me (imagined me) as someone who I was not. They saw what they wanted to and instead of seeing the good in me, they imagined the bad, they looked at me through a microscope and waited for me to do the slightest thing that they could complain about. In the end the things they said I had done wrong were all lies. I never did even the slightest thing wrong there, it was all in their bad mindedness and bad imaginations.

They want good and nice neighbours, but when they got one they couldn’t even see it…

Bad karma will no doubt come to any neighbour who has harassed and intimidated me in the Swansea valley

I believe it is true that if you do bad to others you will receive bad karma back (probably worse) and if you do good you will receive good back.

People think they can lie and cheat and unless there is proof that they have got clean away with it. This is not correct, if you are stealing and cheating from others, all the bad will come back to you. There is no way that they can get away with anything, definitely not.

The more people gossip about others, laugh behind their backs, slander and lie about them to get others to dislike them. The people who steal, have killed or are cruel to animals, have been nasty and intimidating neighbour, argue a lot or are sarcastic to others and enjoy to put them down. If you have an excess of hatred for people, con, or any of the other many things that are possible, eg: thinking you are better than others. By harassing your neighbour and giving them a hard time you are creating bad karma and a unhappy and unlucky life for yourself.

In the Swansea Valley, pontardawe and surrounding area, the people who enjoy harassing their neighbours just for fun, intimidating and bullying, they will definitely get very bad karma back. Many religions say that you should be good to your neighbour and it is thought of as terrible way to live giving your neighbour grief and putting obsatcles in thier way.

By trying to give someone else a bad life all they will get is the bad luck they hoped for onto them, they have in effect cursed their own lives.

I didn’t do a single wrong thing there and I tried to get on with everyone, I went out of my way to be friendly and in return they made up lies against me and harassed me for no reason.

Even if they never get caught out they have created such bad karma for themselves, it is their lives they have ruined not mine.

I am just glad that they showed me their true selves and who they really are, for me I would never live there not for all the money in the world. I would prefer to be pennyless and be away from that place than have millions and forced to have to live there.

It is a very small, scared person who enjoys making someone else’s life hell behind their backs, it didn’t work with me though. I have had an experience, a learning experience. I have found out more about myself and how I have such strong principles. After seeing how low these people can go it has shown me how high my morals are and the high standards I live my life.

I will write a book about everything as true life stories are the best.